This sums up why I haven’t blogged in a while, and probably won’t for some time….
Before I continue, just check out the serious sway around my daughters neck. I won’t go into all the accolades she received at graduation because there are so many it would take the entire post, and that is not the point I want to make…
I could tell you that I’m sad (I am) or that I feel old (not really) or that it all went by too fast (it did) but what I really want to tell you is how incredibly GRATEFUL I feel for having been Celia’s mother these last eighteen years. It has been the greatest joy in my life. Nothing beats it. Nothing.
Furthermore, she taught me so many things. I know its supposed to be the other way around, but in reality, the reverse is true if you allow it to be.
To my daughter on her 18th birthday:
What she taught me…
Engage in every conversation fully
Love wisely, but when you do, love with your whole heart
Invest in your future a little bit every day
A smile goes a lot farther than a frown
Ignore those who would pull you down
Teach others a better way of doing things
Always work hard, no matter how simple the task might be
Lose yourself in the moment
Enjoy life, and all the happiness it brings
Treasure every day with your children, and learn from them as they learn from you…
I just picked up this book on a whim at the library. Honestly, I thought it was about food, which I could pore over 24/7. In fact, it didn’t have a thing to do with eating or food at all. Instead, I found a true gem.
Travels with Epicurus, by (the salty old) Daniel Klein is lovely. I highly recommend it to anyone who is getting older (ha ha, i.e. everyone). In his case, he’s getting on into his 70’s and a visit to the dentist has him questioning how to tread a more graceful path into his golden years. It takes him on a journey to Greece…part travelogue, part meditation on life (he does have a philosophy degree from Harvard), it will capture you, make you think, smile, and ponder your own particular life’s journey.
This is a short book, only 164 pages, but worth every moment you will spend reading it. I don’t care if you’re 30, 40, 50 or more, it is relevant for every adult.
Let me share a few tidbits with you that he elaborates on in the book…
The Greeks have two words for time, Chronos, which is the dimension of time and its duration from past to present to future, but they also have another word, Kairos, which denotes not only the quality of time spent, but it’s particular significance to an individual. Too bad we don’t have such a delineation in the English language. Perhaps we might learn to have more Kairos time rather than Chronos time…
He references an Ingmar Bergman Film called Wild Strawberries, which I haven’t seen, but am going to. It is the story of a man reviewing his life captured in the course of a single day, as well as Federico Fellini’s film 8 1/2. Both films depict characters who learn to accept their lives, warts and all.
He references many philosophers, from Plato and Aristotle to modern thinkers. He also quotes poets and authors including this transcendent passage from William Blake’s “Auguries of Innocence” that I will leave you with:
To see the World in a Grain of Sand, And Heaven in a Wild Flower,
Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand, And Eternity in an hour.